I heard my pastor ask that question last year, and it affected me in a pretty dramatic way.
The lead up to the question was the recognition that as men, we have been designed to lead. It’s who we are; in our DNA, you might say. No matter how much we have tried to shirk that responsibility (and we have) through our Peter Pan syndromes, our abandonment of families, our inability to control ourselves sexually, and our refusal to sing in church, we are still leaders.
The scariest part, though, is that we are leaders even though we might not recognize it. It’s a bit like the NBA basketball player who claims that he’s not a role model for children. He is – it doesn’t matter if he wants to be or not.
Such is the case for every man.
And every man brings something into a room when they enter. The question is what.
Ask yourself, men: “Is the room more anxious after I walk in? Is it more frustrated? Is it more sarcastic? How is it different than it was before I entered?”
My hope is that the room is more peaceful and calm after I’ve walked into it. That people in that room, especially my wife and children, are more confident than they were before I walked in.
For me, the best time to ask this question is in that moment right before I turn the key off and open the back door after work. What am I going to bring into the room?
Will my home be snippy? Angry? Selfish? I can bring all that in with me after a long day.
Or I can bring something else.